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Taming Sibling Rivalry!


“Mom, he’s picking on me again!”

What started as a fun-filled summer now has some families reaching their breaking point! Siblings who happily played together are now on each other’s nerves and parents are doubting that their sanity will survive until August.

It’s not just your family…many of us are at this point!

There is hope! With the A,B,C’s of Parenting and 5 Steps to Reducing Sibling Rivalry, you can put down the referee whistle and hand the problem-solving back to the kids. Let’s get to it!

1. Lay the groundwork. Have a family meeting, clearly state the problem and invite everyone to participate in the discussion. “I have noticed there has been a lot of name calling lately. In our family, we are respectful to each other, today we are going to work together to fix this issue.”

2. State the rule. From this point on there will be no name calling.

3. Brainstorm. “Let’s share ideas of other things you can do to let someone know you’re upset with them.” This is the time when all ideas are accepted, no matter how silly. The kids may suggest some ideas that may not seem logical, accept them with “that’s one idea” or “write that down, it may lead us to other ideas too”.

4. Set consequences. As a family,