Have you ever felt so frustrated you give your kids random consequences like, "You're grounded for the next 2 months!" or "No tv for the next week"? I'll be the first to admit I was guilty of this and I'm wondering if you can relate.
Discovering consequences that work can be hard, but there is an underlying process that I coach parents through that gives them more control in these situation. Here's four steps I offer to my clients and I'm hoping they'll help you too!
"My stepkids come into our bedroom all the time, even when I need some quiet time to work on my college classwork. How can I change things?"
This question was recently posed by a stepmom who adores her stepchildren but needs her bedroom to be a quiet spot for uninterrupted studying. I love that she wants to find a way to study while not making the kids feel shut out completely. My response is filled with strategies to help her find a balance between her little one wanting h
"My fiance doesn't love my child like he loves his own children. How can I fix this?" -- Stephanie M. This is a typical issue for soon-to-be blended families. It is also a common theme within already blended families who just can't get over the parent/child/stepparent relationship differences.
I love that Stephanie wants to be proactive in building her stepfamily, that's what makes a family successful.
I did have to remind her that this isn't something that can really be