Negativity. The challenge in all relationships.
It's so easy to get caught up in the cycle of seeing only what our partner does wrong. While it may feel good at the moment, it does nothing to resolve any of the conflicts we may be experiencing. While working with a couple who is in the middle of a divorce, I noticed most of their focus was on what is wrong with the other person. "Dean never does ...", "Sarah can't do..." On and on it went.
They said they wanted to co-paren
"She likes 'our' kids more than she likes my older kids." I'll never forget the day Bill and Sue's appointment started with that phrase. I could see the disconnect in this couple's body language and hear the frustration in Bill's voice. Since that day I learned this is a common theme in many stepcouple relationships.
What lies beneath
Bill seemed resentful that his wife interacted differently with his older kids from his previous marriage.
Sue admitted that she got more f