My Philosophy
When couples begin their blending journey, they often believe that with enough love, they can overcome any challenge.
While that sentiment is lovely, I want you to know that...
Love is the starting line...not the strategy.
There is more to this
than love.
You love each other, and yet things feel so uncertain and frustrating.
As the stepparent, you are unsure how to find your space in an already established family unit. You find yourself wondering, "When do I step in, when do I step back, and what the heck is my role?"
As the birth parent, you feel pulled between your loyalty to your kids and your partner. Letting someone else into the parenting process is both a blessing ("I need the backup") and a stressor
("No one knows my kids like I do!").
This is so much harder than you thought it would be. The books, podcasts, and commiserating friends are great, but their advice don't fit your unique family dynamics. I get it!
There are things no one told you...but should have.
Whether you're newly married or just beginning to plan a life together, one thing becomes clear quickly: blending a family isn't as intuitive as you hoped it would be.
For couples in the beginning-to-blend stage, the uncertainty can be overwhelming.
You may be thinking:
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How do we bring our kids together without forcing it?
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What’s the right way to discipline or support each other’s children?
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Do we need a plan—or do we just figure it out as we go?
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What is my role as a stepparent?
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How do we create a sense of "familyness"?
If you're already married, maybe you're finding that love isn’t enough to smooth over the tension, miscommunication, or growing distance.
You might be dealing with:
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Feeling like you're on different pages when it comes to parenting
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Resentment building because one partner feels left out or misunderstood
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Frequent conflict, or silence, around how to handle the kids, the ex, or the house rules
These challenges don’t mean your relationship is broken. They mean no one ever taught you how to blend.
Did you know...
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50% of first marriages fail
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75% of those individuals re-couple
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Almost 70% of second marriages with children end in divorce
Why?
They were not prepared for the challenges of blended family life and parenting.
What if we just figure it out as we go?
Left Unaddressed...
You’ll keep repeating the same cycles—misunderstood, disconnected, or emotionally exhausted. Kids pick up on that, and the whole family dynamic suffers. Not because you don’t love each other, but because you didn’t have a plan in place to deal with the challenges.
But with support...
You’ll stop spinning your wheels. You’ll start showing up as a team. Your home can feel lighter, more connected, and more grounded—because you finally have the tools to build it with intention.
There is a strategy to do blend well!
Blending well doesn't happen by chance, it happens by choice.
Intentionally building a strong family foundation in the early stages of blending will set your family up for a more successful blend.
Creating a shared parenting approach, improving your communication strategies and uncovering underlying stepfamily dynamics will help you create the family you envisioned.
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You want a home that feels calm, not chaotic.
A family that feels bonded, not fractured.
A parenting team that feels united, not divided.
That’s what becomes possible when you start with a solid foundation built on:
Clear and respectful communication
A strong parenting partnership
Real understanding of stepfamily dynamics
Love brought you together,
having a strategy will keep you together.
Not Sure Where to Start?
I offer a few options to help you take those first steps toward putting your strategy together.
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The Blended Family Blueprint Starter Kit (checklists, quizzes, e-books, video + Journal)
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The Sunday Strategies Weekly Newsletter (3-5 minute read once a week)
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A Discovery Call to learn more about how my coaching can help (absolutely no obligation!)
Starter Kit
Weekly Tips and Strategies
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