If you were to ask a room full of parents, "Which stage of parenting is the hardest?" Most would answer, "The teen years!" Kids are fighting for independence and freedom while parents are trying to guide them and keep them safe. Talk about a tug-of-war! So, what's really going on? Everything is in transition at the same time.
Our kids are changing from the “babies” who needed us to teens who are now pushing us away.
We are having to change how we approach discipline becau
Have you ever felt so frustrated you give your kids random consequences like, "You're grounded for the next 2 months!" or "No tv for the next week"? I'll be the first to admit I was guilty of this and I'm wondering if you can relate.
Discovering consequences that work can be hard, but there is an underlying process that I coach parents through that gives them more control in these situation. Here's four steps I offer to my clients and I'm hoping they'll help you too!
Do you worry about doing a "good job" raising your kids? Do you struggle with "how" to accomplish this goal? Does it keep you up at night? If so, keep reading!
I recently participated as a guest speaker for a panel discussion about raising teens. Concerns from parents ranged from drug use to social media's influence. There was a central theme underlying all of their questions: "How do I do this parenting thing right?"
We had various experts, from a pediatrician to schoo
The holidays typically include visits with extended family members, which most teens will tell you they dread. While you may be looking forward to seeing your siblings, parents or in-laws there is a strong probability your teens are not as excited about the visit. They would much rather be hanging with friends or playing video games. You know, doing teen things, not hanging out with older people. If you find this frustrating, think about it from your teen's point of view. The
"My husband doesn't think his kids should do chores when they visit on their weekends here." --Sue, wife of Mark and stepmom to 2 boys The topic of chores can be a breaking point for some stepcouples. This may seem like an overly dramatic statement, but I've seen it be the source of frustration and never ending arguments for some stepfamilies. I understand the frustration. Mark wants to make sure the limited time he has with his kids is full of fun. He doesn't want to be nag
"Kids were suspended for having weed at school today."
Some of us might assume this is a statement from a high school student. Unfortunately, he is in middle school and his mom just asked me for some advice on what to say to him.
First of all, don't panic! I know it's something none of us want to hear but if your child tells you this it's a good sign! You've developed an open relationship with him and he's comfortable telling you about serious things in his life.
The lies, the deceit, the disappointment. Now what? The teen years are a time of self-discovery, peer pressure and societal expectations. Some kids find their way without ever experimenting with alcohol or drugs, others may use it to fit in with their peers or relieve stress. Even the "good" kids make mistakes in their decision making occasionally. You'll find yourself asking... "Can I ever trust her again?" "How can I stop being so angry?" There are 5 keys to moving f